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Don't be too quick to dismiss the physical improvement. I'm a gal, too, and you wouldn't believe how much it helps my self-esteem to lift weights on a regular basis... I love seeing and feeling my muscles get stronger.

I've never been too shy, but I am an introvert. Since I've been working out (both cardio and lifting), though, I feel more confident and assertive in general. I walk down the street and feel like I could kick anyone's ass, a feeling which extends into other areas of my life.

So I encourage you to not be intimidated by getting "muscles." You already have them... they are just waiting to be put into action. Making them stronger can do nothing but improve your self-image and kick-assness.

Oh, and you don't need a gym to start getting in shape. Nor do you have to use your weight as a motivating factor to get in shape. You can get in shape by walking around your neighborhood and doing push-ups, sit-ups, etc at home... and not to lose/gain weight, but simply to feel good about yourself.

/just a thought.

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