abaya

Hmm, I don't think that's a general rule, given what gets said by long-married TFP'ers around here!! I'd say that's a problem of communication in general... have you told her how that makes you feel, when she says things like that?

Getting married should *not* kill anyone's sex life/drive... there's always something else going on in those situations, I think. I don't intend to let anything get in the way of a mutually satisfying sex life once we're married.

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