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JustJess · 05-24-2006, 07:51 AM

Well, we're not going to know anything (more importantly, YOU'RE not going to know anything) unless/until you talk with her and ask her some straightforward questions.

1. If you're supporting her, it's reasonable that she does all the house stuff. Not that you need to throw your garbage on the floor or anything, but come on. You have to take care of each other. You're doing your part, so...

2. She's 21. She's changing. So are you. Figure out in what ways and how to deal with it.

3. Find out why she doesn't want you to come out ever. It's weird, and suspicious.
I like to go out without Quadro (he cramps my style as I drink and he does not) but that's established. There's a reason for it, we've talked about it, it's fine. We go out and do things together as well, all the time. This is normal. Her never wanting you to come is not.

4. The average 21-yr-old is not thinking of being a stay-at-home-wife for the rest of their lives (at least not the ones I knew/know). Have you talked about what she wants out of life? What kinds of dreams/aspirations/etc she has? What about you?

5. Again, relationships when you're this young are going to change and have some issues. Either work through them... or don't. You haven't said much about how much this matters to you.

05-24-2006, 07:51 AM	#22 (permalink)
JustJess Unencapsulated Location: Kittyville	Well, we're not going to know anything (more importantly, YOU'RE not going to know anything) unless/until you talk with her and ask her some straightforward questions. 1. If you're supporting her, it's reasonable that she does all the house stuff. Not that you need to throw your garbage on the floor or anything, but come on. You have to take care of each other. You're doing your part, so... 2. She's 21. She's changing. So are you. Figure out in what ways and how to deal with it. 3. Find out why she doesn't want you to come out ever. It's weird, and suspicious. I like to go out without Quadro (he cramps my style as I drink and he does not) but that's established. There's a reason for it, we've talked about it, it's fine. We go out and do things together as well, all the time. This is normal. Her never wanting you to come is not. 4. The average 21-yr-old is not thinking of being a stay-at-home-wife for the rest of their lives (at least not the ones I knew/know). Have you talked about what she wants out of life? What kinds of dreams/aspirations/etc she has? What about you? 5. Again, relationships when you're this young are going to change and have some issues. Either work through them... or don't. You haven't said much about how much this matters to you. __________________ My heart knows me better than I know myself, so I'm gonna let it do all the talkin'.