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Why doesn't she want you to go out with her friends, ever? That's weird and a tad offensive to you. You're married, why wouldn't she like you to go along sometimes also? Would seem natural.
Now she says she doesn't want to be around you? What the hell does that mean? Did you do something to upset her? Again, you're married, what is she playing at?
I have to say this smells of cheating to me, and like Toaster said, she's dumping her guilt on you. It seems you have no idea what she does all day, going out with "friends" left and right.
Stop being "needy" as you say and pandering to what she wants. It should be about what you both want, not about you running around complying to what she wants so that she doesn't get upset. You're upset. So let her know that you won't stand for it anymore. Either she talks to you about what's going on or make it clear that you are going to move on. If she is committed to you, that will give her the necessary kick in the ass to realize that maybe she's going to lose someone important by acting like a teenager.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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