Sultana

Well, I did speak with the lady. She was nice (at least, not mean), and honest.

I don't know that things were actually *resolved*...she kept telling me that she thought I acted rudely, and I kept apologizing all over the place. She even said two people came up to her and asked her why I was acting so horribly to her...*sigh*. So I made amends as best I possibly could.

I also thanked her for the opportunity to address this with her. She said it wasn't an easy decision to make, and that she went back and forth on it, because she knew she would probably not see me, didn't work with me, etc. That rather shocked me...obviously I don't have the same line of thinking. If I become aware that I have hurt anyone's feelings unintentionally, I will follow a concrete beeline to making it right, regardless of *what" that person is to *me*.

Anyways, so we're talking and whatnot, and suddenly she says, out of the blue, "So. I didn't realize you and (hubby) were so close." I was very calm and collected, and on the inside I was thinking..."FUCKCRAPSHITFUCK!" Red Alert, Red Alert!

So yeah, I think Elphaba and savvypup had it right. I don't think that was the whole thing, but it surely must have added to the situation. She said a few other things that confirmed this.

Anyways, when all was said and done, I told her that I wanted to end the convo on an "action" note, and asked if she and hubby and friends would be interested in going to dinner some time. She said she'd have to think about it a while--which shows another way we are different. If places had been reversed, I would certainly had gone out of my way to accept an invite, to let the other person know they were well and truely forgiven. But I suppose that if I'm not, then that's a step best not taken at that point.

So there it is. Thanks again for your very kind words and support. It's meant the world to me.

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