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Originally Posted by HiWayMan
A good ass whuppin' worked for me and my brother. Oddly enough, it worked on my parents, their parents, and their parents before them. And if you are worried about a high pain tolerance, don't be. I had one as a child and I can distinctly remember being swapped enough times to break through the barrier. What is more, it usual wasn't the pain that hurt me, it was the humiliation of being paddled. Works damn good in public places. No one likes getting whipped in public, and even a three, four, or five year old knows about public humiliation.
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Sorry, but physical punnishment is rarely necessary. I was spanked once growing up, by my uncle, who nearly got killed by my dad when he found out. I turned out fine. My kid's never been spanked and he is and always has been one of those rare children that actually behaves in public, isn't a sniveling jerk, and in fact is pleasant to be around.
You can advocate violence against the kid all you want, but it doesn't change the fact that it turns you into a hypocrite. You can't tell them that hitting people is wrong and then turn around and hit them. You can't tell them that violence isn't justified even if someone really makes you angry, and then use violence when the kid makes you angry.
Quite frankly spanking/paddling/switching/whatever you do to hit the kid, is the easy way out. It's a lot harder to hold steady and consistant non-physical discipline than it is to smack the kid whenever he pisses you off. But, in my experience anyway, you end up with a better kid as a result.
All that aside, we do have to remember that, especially when they're young, they're CHILDREN. They're not going to be perfect all the time. My dog sometimes pees on the floor when he gets excited. That doesn't mean he's a bad dog. It just happens. Kids sometimes screw up. When they reach 2-5 years old they start exploring their boundaries. All the times your little kid tells you "no!" or refuses to use the toilet, all that is is the kid testing to see what he can get away with. Don't let him, and you won't have trouble. Spanxxx already discovered this by not letting his kid get away with refusing to use the toilet as commanded. The kid was exploring his boundaries, and he found one of them in this incident. I note with interest that Spanxxx didn't say anything about hitting the kid to get the desired behavior. And since then the kid's been good. He might try exploring them later to see if they've moved, but as long as Spanxxx stays consistant it won't be a big deal.
But I know there are lots of parents out there who will say to themselves "but it's hard to be consistant like that. You have to stand there in the bathroom making sure they use the toilet! And I'd rather not have to stand there for 3 whole minutes. I'll just hit the kid and he'll behave."
And yes, it will probably work. Hit the kid and he'll probably modify his behavior, but out of fear, rather than desire to do what he knows he's supposed to do. Which do you think is the stronger motivator throughout life?