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You really shouldnt blame yourself for anything. Think about it this way if you forgave her and did get married the girls mom wouldnt have changed and most likely the kids would of ended up in some bad situation with a mom they couldnt count on. most likely she would of cheated on you while you were married then after a while you would of gotten a devorce and the kids would end up being raised in a broken home at best. If you ended up getting devorced most likely she would of got the kids just because she was the mom and the system favors moms. then they would of been raised around her and who knows who else she would be with. in the end i really think everything you did was right well except the pull ups.
Dont ever tell anyone they arnt your kids or ever let the kids hear that. even if they are not biologicly yours they are your kids.
Glad to hear you do like reading to them i really think more parents should do that. try to get them to read along with you or at least point to where you are reading from untill they start to learn the words. I know thats what my parents always used to do then when i got to kindergarden i was shocked to find out i was the only one that could read.
As far as telling them about what happened to mom... tough call but whatever you do do not tell them why you think she did it. Megan running to you when she was scared didnt cause her to kill herself. you shouldnt think that or ever repeat it for megans sake. She killed herself because she was a failure and couldnt handle what she did to herself. All the kids ever need to know is she had a mental breakdown. When they are older you can tell them she killed herself but dont even hint at why you think she did it.
It sounds like they have a good home and a loving family and really thats all kids need.
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