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^^^ It is eye-opening. I, too, have recently been dismissing the monster in my relationship. It seemed to have come out of nowhere- but finally realized that it did stem from my marriage, which ended a little over a year ago. It comes from insecurities of feeling unattractive, unappreciated, and even sometimes feeling like I am "just at their convenience".
Well- I have learned a lot about men, about relationships, and about myself. And I am still working on improving my thoughts instead of just jumping to those negative conclusions which can cloud the truth and hurt the relationship, making my SO see this insecurity in me, and tending to withdraw, beginning to think I am over-emotional and possibly even start doubting our relationship, which then makes me feel even more insecure- and it's just like a tug of war. It will just keep going back and forth.
Yes he's done things in the past that I was uncomfortable with and I spoke up in a polite way. No he's never cheated on me, but yes he has done things (not regarding women) that make me lose trust in him. That's where I fight with my weaknesses and all hell can break lose.
Bottom line is- it takes two. And two to communicate.
Once something like this starts, you can never get back to the way you were in your relationship. It takes work- and yes, the relationship can be taken to a whole new level. But it can never be like it was.
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Well, isn't that just kick-you-in-the-crotch, spit-on-your-neck fantastic?!?
*Without energy, there would be nothing.*
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