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Originally Posted by Vincentt
You know, maybe she is just being selfish, having a old mom would suck. And what if she died on you, wow that would suck too. Parents shouldn't be so selfish as to die on their kids.
You know, growing up poor would suck too.
If all the poor families would just stop being so selfish and stop having kids.
We wouldn't have to worry about them either.
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Your sarcasm aside (which I do appreciate, but disagree with the gist of), If you know you can't raise the kid properly, then you're just having the kid to serve your own want. And yes, this goes for people who are poor as well. If you don't have the means to raise a child, don't have a damn child-
the world does not owe you a child, and especially not the government. I wish people would understand this and stop raping the government because they keep spitting out kids they can't AT ALL afford to have. If you can't afford to have a child, it is selfish to automatically expect other people (the government) to pay for it. You're free to have as many children as you want (in this country, anyway), and it is your right to do so- it is not your right to be owed anything by the country in which you live for caring for your baby-factory habits.
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Originally Posted by percy
I find it interesting people think she is being selfish. I myself have been labelled and been called selfish for not wanting to bear children. But I suspect the 63 year old in question is like me and doesn't give a shit what the armchair critics in the world think.We live our lives and leave it up to others to talk about our lives.
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I've been told this as well- that i'm being selfish for NOT having children. Personally, i've seen both sides of this argument- I know some people who will absolutely say YES, I am being selfish that I don't want to waste a ton of my money on a child, I want to enjoy myself. I've also seen those who say that having a kid is simply not for them, in which case selfishness is simply not in evidence. People's opinions are going to be what they're going to be, and you're right that we shouldn't necessarily care about the armchair critics.
The point I was originally making is that if you know you can't support a child, don't have a damn child. I'm not being negative (or at least trying not to be) about her- I hope she lives to 120 so her poor kid's life isn't fucked up by losing his elderly mom at a young age. And i'm not saying a normal life can't be lead after that, but it's completely unnecessary to place such a high risk on putting a child through all that hell.