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Tilted Cat Head
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Location: Manhattan, NY
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Originally Posted by xim
Have you ever been to a college campus? 
(edit: oh you mean dates with her? I dont know if you are expressing your own insecurity or trying to make me insecure. Are you saying I would be better off if I was worried about wheather she liked me or not? There are 150 thousand girls my age within a 5 mile radius of me. Thats not such a problem.)
I'm not looking at this from the same perspective as you. I dont care about finding a person who I can call my soul mate. I'm 21. For me, to "blow it" would be to accidentally get stuck in a long term relationship that inevitably will end in a painful divorce/breakup, because if for no other reason I will not have satisfied my longing for the party life. Then I'm out on my own, forein to the dating world for 7 years, and eat TV dinners until I die. Best date/sleep around until life slows down in 8 or 9 years, at which point im sure someones biological clock will persuade me into submission. 
But as for telling a person this in a nice way I'm just thinking: too early and its presumptious, too late and I've been lying.
I don't know where the middle ground is. |
If you have a wonderful time with her, then want to date her again, yes it's a bit presumptuous. I'm not referring to a soulmate either, but if you enjoy ther person's company and would like to hang out again, why would you say something that may cause that person to rethink it?
You are right about the too early and the too late, but that's the deal with dating, just one of the many reasons I hated the dating game. From my current lady friends who cry on my shoulder about guys they meet and date, there is no real good time. Emotional attachment happens at some point because that's the point of dating even if it's to the level of just enjoying hanging out as friends. Consensus I've heard from such lady friends, all agree up on one thing, they want to know where they are just before or after they have sex.
Why not just enjoy the first date as it is, and just see where that first date goes. You'll know much better after that...
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