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Originally Posted by Cynthetiq
why do you have to front load the date? isn't it a bit presumptuous that you'll have more dates after this date????
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Have you ever been to a college campus?
(edit: oh you mean dates with her? I dont know if you are expressing your own insecurity or trying to make me insecure. Are you saying I would be better off if I was worried about wheather she liked me or not? There are 150 thousand girls my age within a 5 mile radius of me. Thats not such a problem.)
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Originally Posted by maleficent
I think it's awfully presumptious to tell a person that they have no expectations for any kind of commitment before you actually go out on a date... Who the hell knows.. this might be the person of your dreams and you've already blown it...
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I'm not looking at this from the same perspective as you. I dont care about finding a person who I can call my soul mate. I'm 21. For me, to "blow it" would be to accidentally get stuck in a long term relationship that inevitably will end in a painful divorce/breakup, because if for no other reason I will not have satisfied my longing for the party life. Then I'm out on my own, forein to the dating world for 7 years, and eat TV dinners until I die. Best date/sleep around until life slows down in 8 or 9 years, at which point im sure someones biological clock will persuade me into submission.
But as for telling a person this in a nice way I'm just thinking: too early and its presumptious, too late and I've been lying.
I don't know where the middle ground is.