maleficent

Sometime late last year - I was supposed to have a date with a fella - the day before we were supposed to go out, he calls me to tell me that he didn't want anything serious - wasn't looking for a commitment of any kind.. and well - -didn't plan on spending the night..

Ummm...

After I got done laughing... I was puzzled...

I gave no impression that I was expecting him to move all his belongings in to my apartment, declare his undying love for me and swear off all other women... Heck I don't get asked out that often -- but come on already... Do guys really expect women to act like that? dare to think that most women don't.

I think it's awfully presumptious to tell a person that they have no expectations for any kind of commitment before you actually go out on a date... Who the hell knows.. this might be the person of your dreams and you've already blown it...

Wait... see where it goes... see how it goes... you don't need to advertise that you are dating other people... double booking however is a little rude.

However, when there's sex involved - I think you owe it to the other person to be honest before you take you clothes off... She/he needs to know if you plan on fucking one -- or many... for no othe reason than protection of both the physical self and the emotional self.

For most people, dating doesn't imply much of a commitment, once there's sex involved (at least in my old fuddy duddy world) then there's some form of commitment - maybe not the rest of your life happily ever after bs... but.. there's some connection/

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