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It's not the destination, it's the journey.
A lot of folks have trouble reaching orgasm, women in particular. Us men are pretty straightforward in that department and don't have difficulty as often (which isn't to say we never do), but it seems more women have trouble there.
With men, we have an orgasm and... well, it's there. There are differences in the types of orgasm a guy can have, but it's nothing like women... for the fairer sex, there are all manner of different types of orgasm. Some women have a more 'male' orgasm (ie, one big one and then you're done for a while), while others are prone to one or more smaller orgasms. Most fall somewhere in between.
Seriously, don't get too worked up about reaching an orgasm. You say you enjoy sex and are often satisfied, so why does it matter if you come or not? As long as you're enjoying it and he's enjoying it, there's nothing to get too worked up about.
It's also worth noting that stress plays a big part, and it can be more subtle then you think. When you're all wet and naked if all you're thinking is 'I hope I come, why can't I come, what's wrong with me, I hope my husband doesn't think it's his fault, when am I going to come...?' and so on and so on, you're going to have a hard time actually relaxing enough to get there.
Relax, have fun and just let things happen as they happen. Maybe if you can get your mind off it, you'll be able to reach orgasm. Maybe you won't. As long as sex is enjoyable, I'd say just take it for what it is.
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I wake up in the morning more tired than before I slept
I get through cryin' and I'm sadder than before I wept
I get through thinkin' now, and the thoughts have left my head
I get through speakin' and I can't remember, not a word that I said
- Ben Harper, Show Me A Little Shame
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