Rodney

The real question is this: why didn't the dead girl call any of those friends who are bothering _your_ friend? Maybe they'd already blow her off or belittled her problems, or feel guilty because they ignored warning signs. Maybe they _caused her problems, especially Mom. Maybe they're using your friend as a scapegoat, to avoid guilt themselves.

Psychology by Internet's a pretty iffy thing, but I feel pretty strongly about this one: they're picking on your friend so they don't have to dwell on their own actions (or lack thereof). After all, your friend was way at college: _they_ were on the scene.

I'm afraid your friend is going to write them off. They've formed a pack against her; you know, how sometimes a bunch of girls will choose one who's a little different and start calling her the school slut, until everybody believes it? The same thing is happening here, only they've chosen your friend the sacrificial goat because _she_ didn't take the last phone call -- but some of the people who've been instigating it (probably Mom and a few others) were really the ones who could have and should have done something. But they didn't.

It's also significant that they're blaming somebody who isn't on the scene: the best kind of scapegoat is one who's not around, who you don't have to look in the face. This is underhanded, immature, vicious behavior -- and, I'm sorry to say, pretty typical of people who want to disavow any personal responsibility for what happened.

I guess that's the comeback: why is it my fault ? Why didn't any of _you_ on the scene do anything? Why did she reach out to me instead of you guys? Weren't you there for her?

Aside from that, get her to the shrink at the student medical center. She needs to talk to somebody.