Giving is one of my favorite pleasures. Receiving... well, it took me a while. I'm just too sub to have enjoyed it for the longest time. Hubby had to literally pin me and take away the choice - my first few mind-blowing orgasms from receiving were under "duress". Not something I would recommend when the relationship is new, though. Hubby knew me well enough to know what I needed, and was happy to oblige...
I do go through my dom times, and can demand it on occasion (or Cleopatra can, anyway...) *g*