The problem here is you are thinking logically. Bad performance = no reward. Which is true when raising a child, to some degree. The example of the bike riding is perfect. Just because the kid keeps falling off, doesn't mean you tell them they suck. Humans are not logic problems to be solved. There are emotions which get in the way.
Berrating her at this point isn't going to solve anything. If you truly love her, then you should support her. Yes, it is a disappointment, and she understands that. The shopping isn't a reward, it is the fix for her depression. It's her lift. She needs the excitement of buying to fill the void left by her failure to correct her mistake.
If she is going to learn from her mistake and do better next time, she will need a good support system. This would be where you come in.
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