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Originally Posted by macmanmike6100
*snip*I was selfish in indirectly lowering her self-esteem, because my comments really came from feeling personally injured: I "invested" something in her over all of these months, and here she goes throwing it away.
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I think this is interesting here...it seems to me that you feel like she (possibly) failed this test voluntarily, through a lack of caring enough about You. Why do you think that is? Instead of beating yourself up over it (although I don't think it'd be inappropriate to stop acting like her dad), I think it would be wise to examine this further.
I was wondering if perhaps this delays the date that you can put school behind you and get together...I can certainly understand strong disappointment in failure if that negatively impacts your future together.
Sounds like you've got this particular event taken care of, but it might benefit from deeper reflection to avoid possibly inappropriate hurt feelings (yours) and to keep it from happening again.
As you have already noted, it isn't really a benefit to have/offer emotional support when the other person is strong and not needing it.
Good luck to you both!!