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Originally Posted by Acetylene
Good grief, how is it any of your business? "Disappointed" in her? What are you, her father? Even for PARENTS it's not right for them to identify with their kids so strongly. What is she, your trained monkey who has to perform for you? So she got testing anxiety, so what!
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Hold on a minute, so a coach can't be disappointed in the fact that a team lost an easy match? Or a parent can't be disappointed by a child who fails an exam that they studied like mad for? All it means to be disappointed is for someone to have a hope, or desire for another to achieve something, and that person not achieving it. Am I disappointed in my partner if he messes up an easy shot? You'd better fucking believe it. Does it mean I don't want to play with him, or I suddenly have lost some respect for him? No, I still think he's a great player.
And testing anxiety CAN be a big deal. Seeing as how this girl is taking the MCAT her 2nd time, it clearly means that she wants to succeed. What if she gets anxiety on the 3rd? The 4th? The 10th? Clearly, at some point, the anxiety WILL be an issue. Maybe it won't on the MCAT, but there are dozens of tests in life that aren't done with a pencil and paper. What if she gets anxiety then?
*EDIT: I didn't notice that you mentioned that you think the OP should help the girlfriend's test anxiety. I believe that she should get help for it too.