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Originally Posted by visotech
Sometimes I think we have to lie to protect the ones we love. Would you tell your child they truly suck at riding a bike - or would you figure out a way to help them overcome the problem. I know what I said is overly simplified, but as a boyfriend I think you really have to be understanding/caring when you make your comments on how she did or else you are just going to kill her self-esteem further then it has been killed by her own mistakes.
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Actually, lying will just make the problem(s) worse. That doesn't mean you say things bluntly either. A few tactful comments on how to improve is much better than a sugar coated lie or a direct blow to their ego.
The more you lie to your s/o (even if they seem like lies to make them feel better/protect them), the more resentful you will eventually become of them. So long story short, don't lie to your s/o when they fuck up, instead help them improve.
In response to OP: Well, you shouldn't of lied, but I can understand why you did. And if your gf wants to shop, I say you let her, provided that it is her money. If it's her money, she can do whatever she wants with it. The most you can do is advise her.