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macmanmike6100 · 04-22-2006, 07:47 PM

Hi all, my girlfriend just took the MCAT for the second time. Like the last, she studied incredibly hard, but during her months of studying made the extra effort to analyze and avoid making the same silly procedural mistakes she did on the first one.

So now I call her to see how it went and she says, calmly and surprisingly, that she made the same silly procedural mistakes as last time.

I lied to her (go ahead, let me have it, I know how this community publicly is about lying but please hear me out) and told her that I'm not disappointed in her, only surprised because I know how hard she's been working.

But how could I not be immensely disappointed? I feel like not only is she unable handle these high-pressure tests (there are other examples, and she knows this herself) but that she hasn't learned, despite the fact that it's the only important test for medical school.

Worse, she says to me that shopping is the only thing that's going to make her happy right now, and my immediate (and stupid) reaction was to say "Do you really think you deserve that?" But I'm half-right, because who rewards a performance? I don't believe that she should reward the completion of her months of studying with shopping, which is something she does to excess when given the opportunity.

I'm thinking that I should just wait for the scores and see what happens. Should I really be telling her that I'm proud of her, and "support" her, if my heart is entirely not in it? What are your thoughts?

04-22-2006, 07:47 PM	#1 (permalink)
macmanmike6100 High Honorary Junkie Location: Tri-state.	Disappointed in Girlfriend Hi all, my girlfriend just took the MCAT for the second time. Like the last, she studied incredibly hard, but during her months of studying made the extra effort to analyze and avoid making the same silly procedural mistakes she did on the first one. So now I call her to see how it went and she says, calmly and surprisingly, that she made the same silly procedural mistakes as last time. I lied to her (go ahead, let me have it, I know how this community publicly is about lying but please hear me out) and told her that I'm not disappointed in her, only surprised because I know how hard she's been working. But how could I not be immensely disappointed? I feel like not only is she unable handle these high-pressure tests (there are other examples, and she knows this herself) but that she hasn't learned, despite the fact that it's the only important test for medical school. Worse, she says to me that shopping is the only thing that's going to make her happy right now, and my immediate (and stupid) reaction was to say "Do you really think you deserve that?" But I'm half-right, because who rewards a performance? I don't believe that she should reward the completion of her months of studying with shopping, which is something she does to excess when given the opportunity. I'm thinking that I should just wait for the scores and see what happens. Should I really be telling her that I'm proud of her, and "support" her, if my heart is entirely not in it? What are your thoughts?