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I agree with raeanna74....I know what you mean. Been there! It can be just as bad that way around too. I had an ex like that too. Wasn't working, sat around watching porn, which only made him even more horny and ready for it when I got home. Which seems great at first...but after a while, it put a lot of strain on us.
As for 'is porn cheating?', No I don't think it is. Although there is a problem when he's giving it his undivided attention and not spending any time with you. There are definatly issues there.
I know when my ex was watching porn alot, I found it quite difficult to deal with at first. Mainly because it was something I'd never been into...not in an opinionate, 'I think it's wrong' kind of way...I'd just never really thought about it. In the end, I expressed this and he asked me to watch it with him.
I don't know how you feel about porn, but it actually really helped us (to start with anyway!) We'd watch and enjoy it together and it spiced things up, making our sex life even better than it had been bfore, and stopped me feeling completely rejected.
Might be worth a try! But I do think it sounds like you guys have a few things you need to sort out...in particular what the whole situation is doing to BOTH of your self-esteem.
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