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I think it's unfair of your girlfriend to be putting this on you. Like ratbastid said, she's the one with an issue about your not cumming right?
This struck me as a bit disrespectful: "So she had a chat about it with her brothers, and raised it with her therapist. They feel I am rather odd." I hope you told her she could chat about it to her brothers beforehand...
Also, them saying you're odd is pretty unpleasant and rude. I don't think it's odd at all. I don't think that has to be the ultimate goal in sex, though it's nice if you can get it - it's gratifying for you and your partner of course.
I also agree with ratbastid that though she may be the one with an issue, if you're with her and care about her feelings on any given issue that relates to both of you, then it's also your problem to deal with, even if it means helping her deal with it and not the other way around.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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