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I am a self-admitted drama queen and high-maintenance girl, but I'm neither proud nor ashamed of it. It's just the way I tend to be, and I think acknowledging it lets me choose a different way to be. For me, being high maintenance looks like needing lots of reassurance and emotional interaction, and being a bit demanding when it comes to getting what I want. I like being the center of attention. Until recently (a year or two ago) I wasn't aware of these traits in myself - they were there, but I was totally blind to them. Now I can recognize when I'm doing them and choose whether that's the way I want to be or not. Sometimes it's useful - when I'm leading a meeting or working with a crew of people, it's helpful to be able to command attention - but sometimes it's not, like when I'm being stubborn and one-way about something and refusing to see the other person's point of view, or when I'm being clingy and insecure.
I think someone who proclaims proudly that she is "high maintenance" probably doesn't realize the trail of destruction and frustration and bitterness she leaves in her wake. She's probably just very insecure and uses the "high maintenance" behavior to prove her worth.
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"If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing."
- Anatole France
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