raeanna74

I think it could become cheating if the partner viewing the porn was spending so much time viewing porn that they neglected to give any attention to their partner. Cheating is harmful to a relationship because it
- shows a lack of respect for the other partner
- draws time and effort from the existing relationship
- is done deceitfully and then harms trust

If the viewing of porn involves these things then I'd say YES it's cheating and harmful. If not - WHO cares. Now I realize that viewing porn while your girlfriend is at work and then not telling her could be construed as 'decietful' but if she doesn't care that you look at some porn why should you have to tell her every time that you do. If the other partner is bothered by porn then a serious talk needs to be had. Personally I see no issue with viewing porn but if one partner has to sneak around to do something the other partner disapproves of it will deteriorate the relationship no matter what it is.

In your case it sounds like it's or something else is drawing time and effort away from the relationship. If he got upset that you wanted more sex instead of his beating off then it shows that he has a lack of respect that needs to change. It also sounds like he might be acting deceitfully and hiding things. This relationship needs some serious Rx.

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