The wide variety of responses have been covered, the only thing I can add is to take issue with a few comments.
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Either way, fact is, first-time sex is generally lousy. There are exceptions, but... Personally, I lasted literally about four seconds my first time. She was great about it (and I did better the second time!), but that could only have been more awkward if she was somebody I had designs on a long-term relationship with.
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For me, this was the opposite. I waited until I reached a point where I could honestly say I loved the person I was going to have sex with. Because there was a great deal of care for each other, the clumsy first time attempts were not embarassing, but part of a funny thing we could laugh about. Some people (nobody in this thread, yet) insist that you need to throw your junk down every hole in order to improve your technique. I believe that if you have longer term partners, you are much more likely to get better. If you care about each other, she'll be much more accepting of different positions, input areas, and experimentations. If you try to do something new with casual partners, you're likely to get an icy stare.
Some other advantages of sex in a caring relationship:
1. Much easier to get lucky on a regular basis
2. Much easier to discuss birth control options
3. It's nice to have somebody to talk to afterwards
That said, the only way to find somebody is to date them, and not "wait" for meta-girl to fall out of the sky and into your lap.