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TivaBella · 04-10-2006, 02:08 PM

I don't know if I have anything original to add here, but my alarm bells are clanging right now and I feel like I have to add my voice to the choir.

I have two concerns here:

1. If 2 consenting adults decide to have an open relationship, who am I to argue? As long as both parties agree that it would make them happy there is no problem as far as I am concerned. However, this is not the kind of compromise that someone can make just to make their partner happy. You would have to clearly define what it means to both of you and be absolutely sure that you would enjoy it. Otherwise it is doomed to fail.

2. If your gf had expressed an interest in an open relationship right from the beginning, that would be one thing. In this case though, she is changing the rules mid-stream and that makes me very nervous about her motives.

04-10-2006, 02:08 PM	#11 (permalink)
TivaBella Tilted	I don't know if I have anything original to add here, but my alarm bells are clanging right now and I feel like I have to add my voice to the choir. I have two concerns here: 1. If 2 consenting adults decide to have an open relationship, who am I to argue? As long as both parties agree that it would make them happy there is no problem as far as I am concerned. However, this is not the kind of compromise that someone can make just to make their partner happy. You would have to clearly define what it means to both of you and be absolutely sure that you would enjoy it. Otherwise it is doomed to fail. 2. If your gf had expressed an interest in an open relationship right from the beginning, that would be one thing. In this case though, she is changing the rules mid-stream and that makes me very nervous about her motives. __________________ It's all falling into place. Of course that place is nowhere near this place. Buffy - "Gingerbread"