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Originally Posted by visotech
Recently my gf pushed this idea on to me to have an "open relationship". We went from it being ok to flirt with the opposite sex at parties and such to "open relationship". But if you ask me, wtf does it mean? What are the bounds? If two people are in an open relationship should they be communicating whats going on, otherwise isn't that just cheating? Im confused, and sort of dragged into this, I have no clue on what it means and because of that I do not know where I stand on the idea.
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Ok red flag time here.
I'm the last person to be prudish in sexuality, but this seems to be more basic than an open relationship.
The concept of a truely open relationship is one where you are still 'together' but you have other sex partners. Most would say ONLY sex partners with little emotional attachment. From what I can gather, VERY few people are successful at having a happy open relationship. The normal course of action for an open relationship is that one member of the 'couple' falls for one of their fuck toys. The problem as I see it is that an open relationship isn't really about 'US' but 'ME'. Maybe you would agree for the sake of the other person but they are doing it for their own reasons. I suppose if you were the kinda guy who really got turned on by the thought of your wife/gf off fucking another guy could be different.
Now that being said, I think what your GF is asking is, "Hey I met this guy I like a lot and I want to see if it will work out, so I want some time to explore a relationship with him without dumping you first, is that ok?".
While I think the above is the most likely it could also be.
"Hey you are great and all but I want to fuck more people before I think about getting married, so lets pretend we are still in a relationship."
Get out of a relationship with her, perhaps keep a fuck buddie if you are not emotionally attached.