Originally Posted by Anonymous

Biffalloo, stop. This numbing lube is dangerous! The role of pain is to prevent you from harming yourself. Therefore if anal sex is painful, it is not being done appropriately. It's _very_ easy to tear things over there (let's face it, it's not an organ designed for sex like the wonderfully expanding vagina is). So by masking the pain you might not be aware of the tears that are happening. This can in turn fool into being even more careless, hence more damage can occur.

Bottom line (no pun intended..): you need to move up from little things (fingers, plugs) to a penis, over time. You also need a good lube (I recommend Maximus), lots of it . And you need relaxation.

Anal sex is fun and rewarding, but it's more complicated to manage than vaginal sex. Please be careful.