Mike, I look forward to hearing more from you!
ASU, isn't that kind of a cynical take? The kind of love that would be an addiction would be very unhealthy, though I agree that MANY people in our society are addicted to those kinds of chemical rushes. For me, I am not drawn to players whatsoever (in fact, I chose my current SO precisely because he was a bit of a wallflower, which I found quite attractive)... so I don't apply to that movie's take on things, I guess. Has that been your experience?
Gilda, beautiful post... I loved reading it, and I agree with you on all points. I am sure that some people dislike the idea of "scheduling" acts of love (that includes everything from sex to cuddling to playing Scrabble), but your post is evidence in itself that these things do need to be set and adhered to, as "maintenance" of the bond that Owl described.
I like the way you put it, Owl, that love is a feeling, but maintaining that feeling is what takes work. I think for me, I used to think that the "work" didn't need to happen, that the feelings should be natural or it wouldn't really be love. But my views have changed since being in a relationship with ktspktsp for two years now (my longest and most significant relationship). Hence my OP.
It doesn't take much to get a fire started, but it takes a hell of a lot more to keep it going. Good thing I'm a pyromaniac...
