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Originally Posted by raeanna74
Relationships that take work can sometimes be more healthy than relationships where the people are so alike that they can finish each other's sentences. BECAUSE that sameness cripples them into expecting a constancy and assuming that the other person will always know what they're thinking when in reality we're always changing and that is not always going to be the case. When you stop working at a relationship it stops growing.
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Raeanna, great wisdom there. Thank you for saying this. I get quite irritated with people who believe in "the One," since as I said earlier, I am just not inclined to believe that kind of thing (I used to, until we broke up!
) I like what Sultana said, too, about the person who was "the One" 15 years ago may well evolve into someone who is not the One (or you may evolve, etc)... UNLESS you are both willing to work hard.
Sometimes that's why I think arranged marriages may not be that different from "love matches," as they call them... because when it comes down to it, it is less about "being in love" and more about your willingness to work together over a long period of time, to make a life together. It is less about finding "THE one" and more about finding "one" (or more!) with whom you are willing to cobble a life together with.