Quote:
|
Originally Posted by abaya
There seems to be a case of cognitive dissonance going on with some men here... those who like fantasizing, but who would actually be turned off if that fantasy came true. I guess my understanding of fantasies was that fantasy = dream that you want to come true. If you dream about doing it and it turns you on, then wouldn't it be an even bigger turn-on to actually DO it in real life? I mean, why else would you fantasize about something if the reality didn't turn you on? Thus I don't understand why some men would dream about their wife being with another woman and then get jealous when an opportunity to fulfill that dream came true.
|
When you fantasize about something, it's just images and there's never real concerns involved. When you fantasize you have complete control over the situations and you don't have to worry about feelings getting hurt...heck you don't even have to worry about scheduling or anyone finding out. There's so many factors that come into play when you bring something into reality that the "thing" may no longer even resemble the fantasy.