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Originally Posted by Sultana
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I know that one of the top 3 sexual fantasies for men is to watch or be sexually involved with 2 women simultaneously. Of course this would involve woman-on-woman sexual interaction.
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Been there, done that, holy christ it was hot
I have no jealousy issues at all when another woman is involved. About the same time this happened I brought it up (as a hypothetical) with a friend of mine, and he was very put off by the idea of his gf (soon to be wife) with another woman.
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So one time a completely spontaneous opportunity came up to experience this, and I started forward with it because A) I'm interested in trying new things, and B) I *really, honestly* thought the hub would enjoy it. Turns out that assumption B was wrong. Dead wrong.  OK, yes, I should have talked it over with him first, I suppose, but like I said, this was completely out of the blue, and I thought it would be interesting to "see what happens next". I really, really thought hubby would enjoy it. I personally am not sexually attracted to women, although I can appreciate beauty where ever I find it, you know? And I don't think it would hurt, unless she has long nails or something. 
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With ANYTHING like this communication is the key. If you would have brought it up with him prior as a hypothetical he may have had a different reaction.
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I talked about this to a good friend of mine who is very bi-sexual, and she told me that while many men have a fantasy like that, when it comes down to it, most don't want Their Woman involved. Would you guys agree with this statement?
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I don't know if its a 'most' or a 'many' but a lot would not be able to handle it. I don't think it would be the same as the reaction most men get when they see their woman with another guy, but it would trigger a lot of insecurity flags.
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I guess this is kinda tied to the "Age-old question" thread, in that if I see that my guy is attracted to certain things consistently, I think it would be good for me to see if I can make that happen for him, to some extent.
So I took a risk, and it didn't pan out. In fact it turned out fairly badly. If I can learn from this, it won't have been completely in vain.
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Some people will say fantasy is better than reality. I think this is bullshit unless your fantasy is something god awful. Sharing your fantasies is the first step (communication) but living them can take you to a whole new level in your relationship. Maybe this didn't work out for you, but your motivation was in the right place, you did it for him more than for yourself, you wanted HIM to have a fantasy come true, and thats a wonderful thing your S.O. can give you. As long as you approach it from this direction (and again communitcate prior) you can have a lot of fun and end up closer than ever.