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Originally Posted by doncalypso
In short, those "experts" on love and relationships have a wide open market to exploit because the common sense they're selling to their readers is often only acquired by the average guy after years of painful lessons and after having had their hearts shot to a million pieces. Let's face it, ladies and gentlemen of TFP... when it comes to relationships, some guys are very sharp and have a good innate sense of how to proceed with women and how not to mess up; but there are some guys (like myself) who are totally clueless or very dense so they have to go through several (too many, as far as I'm concerned) painful lessons that they need not have experienced if they'd been taught properly.
Have you ever considered that maybe the reason those self-help books on relationships sell not because of what is being said in them but because the information is presented in a way that finally 'clicks' in the reader's mind?
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Most of your post could be said for just about any subject from finances to home buying, wedding planning to raising families, working and getting promotions to saving for retirement
It's exactly what you are saying PARENTS should be communicating this information to their CHILDREN.
It's pretty simple. It's pretty straight forward.
Self Help section in bookstores has grown by leaps and bounds over the past 20 years. My parents shared as much information as they could and continue to do so. Some parents may not. That's not to say that I don't have my own issues that drive me to the Self Help section as well. But the self help that I'm looking for isn't so much common sense such as what you've/I've stated above. I'm looking for something more in depth than common sense. I'm looking for specific skills, specific tools, that took other people a whole lifetime to master.
See what you are mentioning is just what is the problem with most people of today. We don't want to have to spend time learning ropes. We don't want to pay into the School of Hardknocks. No we want to know it now. We have self help books, cheat guides, cliff notes, etc. We don't want to do the work that it takes to get the real experience that makes it really more valuable than anything else which is TRUE experience. We are all too afraid to fail, we're all too pampered make mistakes.
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