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Originally Posted by Charlatan
My mother used birthcontrol. This means that there were potentially many fertilized eggs that were terminated as the pill forced her system to menstruate. I don't worry about those any more than I would an abortion.
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Charlatan, usually I do agree with you, but I have to ask (maybe I am just wrong): isn't the whole point of hormonal BC to stop any eggs from being released? In that case, birth control does not do its job by dislodging fertilized eggs in a forced menstrual flow. If it's all working properly, then there are no eggs to be fertilized at all. And I suspect that if the eggs were fertilized, the menstruation would not, in fact, take place. Again, I could be wrong, but this has always been my understanding..
Back to the OP: as far as I know, my mother never had an abortion. If she had, yes, I would have missed my potential siblings, the same way I would have missed them if she had had miscarriages (though the feelings towards my mother would be different for abortion vs. miscarriage, because of the purpose required in the first case). It wouldn't be a huge, conscious ache, since I do believe people do what they need to do, but I would have definitely not forgotten it for the rest of my life. I am an only child and I often wished, growing up (and even moreso now) that I had siblings. My mother meant to have three children with my father, but since he died when she was 8 months pregnant with me... well, yeah.