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Originally Posted by feelgood
Plus, I figured that with the divorce rate going these days, there's more single person in their 40s than there were few decades ago
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In urban centers, there are always a lot more older unmarrieds; divorcees and widows, but also a lot of people who just never settled down; big cities attract the restless, and attract them and hold on to them even as they grow old. Of course many of these people are in no hurry to get married, or married again. One of the things I found in the city was that 40ish and 50ish women who are financially secure -- whether there is alimony or not -- aren't especially motivated to get married. They like their independence, and can get all the companionship (and sex) they want from men their age (or younger) without making a legal commitment.
On the other hand, I knew 40ish and 50ish city men who _weren't_ financially secure who wooed well-off divorcees with hopes of marrying onto the gravy train. They always complained to me that "they'll f*ck ya in a minute -- but they won't marry ya!" Funny how economics can dictate who calls the tune in a romantic relationship.