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For most religious people, their beliefs are central to who they are. If you are dating someone religious, it is more or less a certainty that they will try to get you involved. This is not, in and of itself, a wrong thing; it is actually a sign of how much they care for you and want you involved in something important to them.
That being said, it is a BAD BAD IDEA to force anyone to attend/follow a religion in which they do not believe. That's a surefire way to make someone hate religion and, eventually, God (NOT what she has in mind, I'm sure). If you've been baptised, she doesn't even have the excuse of trying to make sure you are saved--you've already BEEN saved and now it's your business whether you go to church or not. (Of course opinions on this matter vary radically and a devout Catholic might still fear going to Hell because the Catholic church is kind of screwy that way.)
So. Keeping these things in mind, I would honestly tell her that you understand she loves you and her religion and she wants you to be a part of it, but tell her that it is really unpleasant for you to attend Mass and, for you, that's not what living a good life is all about. After that, you have a choice. You can work out together a way that you can be involved in something that is important to her (Bible study at home, attending Mass only once per month, whatever), or you can tell her honestly but gently that this is not your thing and never will be.
If she has a problem with this, then she is dating the wrong guy. Continuing to see someone who wants you to be something you aren't is a trap. Get out while you can and find someone who isn't trying to change you to match some idealized picture in her head, and do it fast--life is too short to waste on the wrong girl.
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