maleficent

About 18 years ago, a friend and his wife gave birth to a child who was developmentally diabled - this poor child has more problems that Carter's has liver pills... The doctors and the family all suggested that this child be institutionalized because she'd never learn to walk, or communicate, or feed herself or anything... Both parents were not exactly what you'd call over achievers in their lives - -nice people, but liked having fun more than work...

The parents made a decision to get their act together and be good parents... Katie, at 18, is not a 'normal' child, but she walks on her own, she talks, she feeds herself, she does all the things that the 'experts' said she'd never be able to do, because the parents had incredible amounts of love and patience with this child.

I had a colleague a few years ago, who's sister and husband gave birth to a child.. The child was born with Down's Syndrome... The parents were so devastated at not having a 'normal' child, that they gave it up for adoption in the hospital... (luckily there was a family who wanted this child immediately and the baby didn't stay in the hospital)

The parents, in your case, might be fooling themselves that she might have a normal life, but honestly, you don't know unless you try... I think when you make the decision to have a child... you play the hand you are dealt... and do your best with the situation..

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