Originally Posted by lurkette

I am, no surprise, in agreement with my hubby ratbastid on this one. I'm looking at all of the examples people give, and really, I could live with any of them. There are certain things that push our buttons more than others, and we generally steer clear of those when we're acting like adults, but even when we push those buttons, deliberately or accidentally, we each have room for the other to act like a fallible human being who says or does stupid things. Maybe it's that we both know that we each have a foundation of deep respect and adoration for the other, so all that other stuff isn't really "us" talking, it's the idiot scripts that start running when you're tired, annoyed, stressed, emotional, whatever. Anything he says or does that really gets me is more about my own reaction than his words, anyhow.