I think Ustwo gave some great advice. If you're not happy with yourself you're not going to be happy with anyone or anything else. Work on your own problems first and see if that has a positive impact on your marriage. You do have a LOT of issues to work through--I would highly recommend starting a good diet/exercise regimen AND getting yourself some personal counseling. Those things can make all the difference in the world.
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