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Originally Posted by Fob_Magi
Also I know that most women don't like games and action movies, its not just that, its a whole combination of things where we differ, the only things we mutually enjoy are a few TV shows and food (not even same kind of foods).. the 2 things which have made us fat and taken away the 3rd thing we used to mutually enjoy, our sex life.
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Well my wife and I like completely different things, and do not share tastes in foods (I like everything shes more limited) yet we think we are very lucky to have found each other, and I could not ask for a better marriage, (hell if she played games I'd be stuck grouping with her and I don't have the patients for newbies
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I think I found the root of your problem. You are both fat, you hate it (can't speak for her) and you are not attracted to her being fat.
Now we are all told to love shouldn't be skin deep, and its not, but sex sure as hell is for me. Some people will tell you its wrong to think that way, they always do, but who cares. I love my wife but if she decided to become 300 lbs and refused to try to loose weight, I'd still love her but I wouldn't be having sex with her.
First off don't give me the bullshit that you can't loose the weight. Thats crap. No one violates the laws of physics. Eat less food and you will lose weight. I lost 30 lbs since last May so I have no sympathy in that department. Same goes for her. Every time I hear someone whine they can't loose weight or whatever, its bullshit.
So that is where you first need to focus. In my case focusing on myself first is what got my wife to loose weight too, and shes officially back to hottie status. Also if you are out of shape, no confidence, and no self esteem you are going to need to be using my option #3 and thats not a good place to be if you decide a divorce is needed.