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savvypup · 03-11-2006, 02:27 AM

Hey Fob Magi. Although this is of no help to your situation, it's reassuring to me (who's going through a real shitty part of life as well) to hear of others in a similar boat. Counselling, which seems to be the consensus here, is the way to go (been there, done that) but I personally think it's best to have it one-on-one with the counsellor first. You obviously have some HUGE issues with yourself that need resolution and I found that a counsellor helped immensely even if just for the fact of prodding me to really dig to the heart of where my issues where stemming from. Does your wife see that there's a problem? Have you mentioned to her you're not happy or has she? Because you both need to acknowledge that there's problem before trying counselling.

Selfish? That's harsh I think. You did talk about certain BIG future paths before getting married didn't you ie babies etc. I think most people do, and if you said to the contrary, then back then, then fair enough. Having kids is THE BIGGEST issue that will ever be raised in a normal relationship. I have a 2.5yr old and my husband and I (seperated for 14 mths now) get on really well, but it's hard. We will always have that bond and I want her to know her dad and vice versa. Do Not Cave Into Having Kids If Your Relationship Is Shakey Or To Keep Her Happy - this is one decision you cannot step back from.

I have so much more to add, but .....

Good Luck!!

03-11-2006, 02:27 AM	#26 (permalink)
savvypup Crazy Location: Want to run away? Follow the light	Hey Fob Magi. Although this is of no help to your situation, it's reassuring to me (who's going through a real shitty part of life as well) to hear of others in a similar boat. Counselling, which seems to be the consensus here, is the way to go (been there, done that) but I personally think it's best to have it one-on-one with the counsellor first. You obviously have some HUGE issues with yourself that need resolution and I found that a counsellor helped immensely even if just for the fact of prodding me to really dig to the heart of where my issues where stemming from. Does your wife see that there's a problem? Have you mentioned to her you're not happy or has she? Because you both need to acknowledge that there's problem before trying counselling. Selfish? That's harsh I think. You did talk about certain BIG future paths before getting married didn't you ie babies etc. I think most people do, and if you said to the contrary, then back then, then fair enough. Having kids is THE BIGGEST issue that will ever be raised in a normal relationship. I have a 2.5yr old and my husband and I (seperated for 14 mths now) get on really well, but it's hard. We will always have that bond and I want her to know her dad and vice versa. Do Not Cave Into Having Kids If Your Relationship Is Shakey Or To Keep Her Happy - this is one decision you cannot step back from. I have so much more to add, but ..... Good Luck!!