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If you don't talk to her abut it, eventually the decision is going to be taken from you, and maybe in a way that hurts you both.
Be honest, be gentle, and be loving.
If you express yourself with honesty and love, you cannot help but make things better in the long run.
Even if her reaction is to say "in that case I'm leaving", you'll have saved yourself wasted years.
I just married the best woman I ever met, but I wish I could have done it years earlier - but I couldn't, because I originally married the first woman that came along; your story sounds so much like mine it almost made me cry - for lost hopes, for you, for me, for all sorts of painful reasons.
If I'd had the honesty to realise that the person I was at 25 (when I married my ex-wife) was nothing like the person I was at 17 (when we started dating), I wouldn't have had to divorce at 33.
If you love her you have to fulfil her dreams - if they don't include watching a guy she used to fancy bloat up and start to bore her in bed then you need to go for a run.
If they don't include bloating up herself and losing her libido then SHE needs to go for a run.
Step one: Eat less, move about more.
Step two: switch the TV off, the PC off, the Stereo off and talk to her - write her letters - chalk it on the outside of the house, but SOMEHOW make her realise your hopes dreams and fears.
If all else fails, walk away while you both still have time.
Whatever else you do, please, PLEASE leave her before you sleep with a new woman - casual extra-marital sex is not the solution, but it's a great way to make lawyers rich.
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