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SAM821 · 03-09-2006, 08:42 PM

Well, you need to get an understanding of what you want man. I admire that you are admirable in the fact that you will remain loyal no matter what. But here is the deal. You have two options.

Option A: You must make things better. Find a midpoint where both of you can accept each others interests. Combine them, like you know go out to a movie where its loud for example... Show interest in her things and maybe she will be encouraged to enjoy yours... perhaps find New interests together. Things like this can improve a relationship. Also encourage yourselves to go to the gym. Its good quality time you will spend with each other every day and you will reap from the benefits in more ways than one. And finally find a way to spice up your love life. Maybe when you decide to have sex (on that once a week occasion) do something different, get freaky, go down on her, do it multiple times, things like that... try to make it fun. Perhaps this will make it become more of a frequent occasion again. You must ressurrect the love life you have. Thats 50% of the relationship right there.

After you accomplish this then maybe you will become happy again. And you will enjoy your spouses company and the fact that you are married once again.

Option B: Divorce. Move on and understand that there is no such thing as only ONE person in the world for you... There will always be others... sometimes people make mistakes, get drunk go to vegas and get married in a chapel. Only to wake up the next morning and discover what is lying in bed next to them... (metaphorically speaking). What im trying to say is dont shoot yourself down and think that she is the only person in the world that would date you. Once you have that though out of your mind. Get back in shape, work out. Dress nice, Go out and enjoy the "single life" and do the things that you were never able to do while dating/married to this girl.

Biggest thing is Hopefully you dont have kids yet. This will make your decisions much easier. Use your judgment. But understand that if you arent happy now, and you arent willing to make it better, then your mind is already made up and you need to move on... BUT if you really love her than stick to option A.

Hope this helps!

03-09-2006, 08:42 PM	#5 (permalink)
SAM821 Surviving Hurricanes Location: Miami, Florida	Well, you need to get an understanding of what you want man. I admire that you are admirable in the fact that you will remain loyal no matter what. But here is the deal. You have two options. Option A: You must make things better. Find a midpoint where both of you can accept each others interests. Combine them, like you know go out to a movie where its loud for example... Show interest in her things and maybe she will be encouraged to enjoy yours... perhaps find New interests together. Things like this can improve a relationship. Also encourage yourselves to go to the gym. Its good quality time you will spend with each other every day and you will reap from the benefits in more ways than one. And finally find a way to spice up your love life. Maybe when you decide to have sex (on that once a week occasion) do something different, get freaky, go down on her, do it multiple times, things like that... try to make it fun. Perhaps this will make it become more of a frequent occasion again. You must ressurrect the love life you have. Thats 50% of the relationship right there. After you accomplish this then maybe you will become happy again. And you will enjoy your spouses company and the fact that you are married once again. Option B: Divorce. Move on and understand that there is no such thing as only ONE person in the world for you... There will always be others... sometimes people make mistakes, get drunk go to vegas and get married in a chapel. Only to wake up the next morning and discover what is lying in bed next to them... (metaphorically speaking). What im trying to say is dont shoot yourself down and think that she is the only person in the world that would date you. Once you have that though out of your mind. Get back in shape, work out. Dress nice, Go out and enjoy the "single life" and do the things that you were never able to do while dating/married to this girl. Biggest thing is Hopefully you dont have kids yet. This will make your decisions much easier. Use your judgment. But understand that if you arent happy now, and you arent willing to make it better, then your mind is already made up and you need to move on... BUT if you really love her than stick to option A. Hope this helps!