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Originally Posted by Jack1.0
I believe that either extreme is potentially destructive. On one extreme you have a person who sleeps with anyone they can lay their hand on, while on the other extreme you have someone who has slept with only on person. As noted by Shesus, the first extreme quite possibly is behavior that is hiding an unfulfilled need in the person’s life. The second extreme can lead to problems later in a relationship as the inexperience partner begins to grow and may start to wonder if there is something out there that they “Missed.” Neither of these outcomes is for certain.
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well since everybody wants to disagree with this, let me chime in, I have to agree with him... I have never slept with anybody but my wife. It kills me. Every single day I feel the sting of it... I always feel like I have missed something. I thought I would get over it and it would go away but it is just festering... and its hurting my relationship...
year 0 - "of course I'll be happy with only sleeping with 1 person, whats the point of more?"
year 1 - "I'm kinda jealous of her having had other partners but I can deal with it"
year 2 - "am I missing something"?
year 3 - "I AM missing something, but I love my fiance and I'll deal with it"
year 4 - "Did I make the right choice? can I really handle this for the next 50 years?"
year 5 - "I think i made the wrong choice..."
now I have to say while we communicate well about most things, and we have talked about this briefly (before we got married) but its something that I can't bring myself to vocalize... hell I think this is the first time I have written it down...
anyways.. just my 2 cents.. sometimes it sneaks up on you slowly... maybe I should make my own thread since I keep cluttering everybody elses with my issues... lol