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Originally Posted by Charlatan
Guys like to masturbate. Guys like to fantasize when they masturbate. Porn provides material for fantasy.
It has little to nothing to do with a dedicated relationship. I find that women who react negatively to their SO viewing porn have issues have insecurities with their own self image.
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Couldn't agree more. Men are attracted to good looking women, it's science, nothing can change that. It doesn't change or cheapen the relationship you have. There is absolutely no reason to be threatened by porn for that very reason. It's simply a means to fulfilling a need. Just because he enjoys porn doesn't mean he doesn't enjoy you even more. As Charlatan said, being concerned about it is indicative of a greater problem. You need to learn to have either more self confidence or more trust in him.
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Originally Posted by OhsnSoul
I don't want him to think that he can just check out other women whenever he wants and I don't want to feel like I give him the okay to be turned on by them.....I want him to be turned on to ME
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As already stated, it's biology, men will be turned on by other women, it's not something that can be turned off or ignored. It's no different than the response you would have seeing an attractive man. It's not something you can give permission for. And if he's in a relationship with you, he *is* turned on by you. The sooner you're able to accept this simple fact of life the happier you will be.