An interesting thread to me because this has just happened to me this weekend. 10 months since last relationship. first night with new girl. We got on great, had a lovely night and everything was perfect. Except I couldn't hold a sufficient erection for us to have sex. We were very intimate though and we were both very happy, except a little of myself beating myself up over it.
Now I know all the typical reasons: nervousness, etc and thinking of it just makes it worse. Trouble is, it is a viscious circle and getting out of it is hard. My thoughts on the matter right now are
(a) if she's the type of girl I want a relationship with then it doesn't matter. We'll relax and it i'll sort itself out
(b) we will talk and be open with each other. It's the basis of a healthy relationship and everything should work from that foundation.
(c) I need to stop thinking that I am under pressure to deliver, as I'm sure (b) will prove I am not
I have been thinking of this a fair bit today but reading on here shows this is pretty normal...
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