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blizzak · 03-04-2006, 11:47 PM

I have this one friend, and he's been around the block....had sex with about 20-30 different girls in his life so far(he's 23). Now i've seen him go from being engaged to picking up two chicks at the bar to his latest bout of moving 5 hours away to be far from a girl after a breakup. So my question is does this type of behaviour put people into a cynical emotional state? Or do people that have been around more have more of a concept of what they want out of relationships...is "testing the waters" essential for true growth and eventual happiness?

Now, I've only actually kissed one girl, on the lips, ever. That's my girlfriend, with whom I got together in and around 2004(when I was 19). I've only ever slept with her and I only plan to do that in the future. While I think love is something that grows, I think there are many people who are way too immature to allow it to happen in their relationships. To accept and ultimately enjoy the trivial flaws of their partners. Is only even being with one S.O. ever just fooling yourself because you may not be as compatible as if you found someone else...I've had my doubts but ultimately I love her for who she is and how she makes me feel.

The question here is what does time and experience do to a person emotionally, and is it necessary to experience.

03-04-2006, 11:47 PM	#1 (permalink)
blizzak Crazy	Does messing around too much mess you up permanently? I have this one friend, and he's been around the block....had sex with about 20-30 different girls in his life so far(he's 23). Now i've seen him go from being engaged to picking up two chicks at the bar to his latest bout of moving 5 hours away to be far from a girl after a breakup. So my question is does this type of behaviour put people into a cynical emotional state? Or do people that have been around more have more of a concept of what they want out of relationships...is "testing the waters" essential for true growth and eventual happiness? Now, I've only actually kissed one girl, on the lips, ever. That's my girlfriend, with whom I got together in and around 2004(when I was 19). I've only ever slept with her and I only plan to do that in the future. While I think love is something that grows, I think there are many people who are way too immature to allow it to happen in their relationships. To accept and ultimately enjoy the trivial flaws of their partners. Is only even being with one S.O. ever just fooling yourself because you may not be as compatible as if you found someone else...I've had my doubts but ultimately I love her for who she is and how she makes me feel. The question here is what does time and experience do to a person emotionally, and is it necessary to experience. __________________ Fueled by oxytocin!