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onodrim · 03-02-2006, 07:45 PM

The idea of seducing another woman is actually not something that appeals to me. The whole idea of seducing is to convince someone to do something that they wouldn't normally consider. To me, giving a female I'm attracted to a back rub, etc with the intent to get her interested in more is just disrespectful.

So is flirting with someone who you don't know will be comfortable or welcoming to it.

Yeah, it means that picking up a girl is going to be more difficult because it involves paying attention to clues and going slowly so that you are sure you're not stepping over any boundaries. If it's someone you're friends with, I find casually bringing up the general idea of bisexuality and stuff like that in conversation and joking around helps a lot.

Talk about it to get their feelings on the matter, but don't make it clear that you might be interested in them until you know where they stand on the issue in general.

As someone who considers herself bisexual but has only had limited experience so far, I still think this is the best way to go. Sure, it means it's going to be more of a process to find someone who is open to the idea in general and with you, but it's also a lot more honest toward the person you may be seeking to get involved with. If you're looking for one night stands and are not worried about the consequences, I guess that doesn't matter, but if you're looking for something more than that, I know I've been happy with the results so far

03-02-2006, 07:45 PM	#37 (permalink)
onodrim Cosmically Curious Location: Chicago, IL	The idea of seducing another woman is actually not something that appeals to me. The whole idea of seducing is to convince someone to do something that they wouldn't normally consider. To me, giving a female I'm attracted to a back rub, etc with the intent to get her interested in more is just disrespectful. So is flirting with someone who you don't know will be comfortable or welcoming to it. Yeah, it means that picking up a girl is going to be more difficult because it involves paying attention to clues and going slowly so that you are sure you're not stepping over any boundaries. If it's someone you're friends with, I find casually bringing up the general idea of bisexuality and stuff like that in conversation and joking around helps a lot. Talk about it to get their feelings on the matter, but don't make it clear that you might be interested in them until you know where they stand on the issue in general. As someone who considers herself bisexual but has only had limited experience so far, I still think this is the best way to go. Sure, it means it's going to be more of a process to find someone who is open to the idea in general and with you, but it's also a lot more honest toward the person you may be seeking to get involved with. If you're looking for one night stands and are not worried about the consequences, I guess that doesn't matter, but if you're looking for something more than that, I know I've been happy with the results so far __________________ "The world is so exquisite with so much love and moral depth, that there is no reason to deceive ourselves with pretty stories for which there’s little good evidence. Far better it seems to me, in our vulnerability, is to look death in the eye and to be grateful every day for the brief but magnificent opportunity that life provides" -Carl Sagan Last edited by onodrim; 03-02-2006 at 07:52 PM..