Rodney

From my point of view:

1) She had problems with her husband. They may not be what she says they are, but she had problems.

2) She's mentally ill. She has fears and issues and anxieties that she can't handle; they manifest in dreams, and she confuses the dreams with reality. Anything she can't explain sets off a paranoid train of thought.

How can I say this? I almost married this. She worked for the phone company, and thought they were out to get her; if the phone clicked during a call, she was sure it was them. She brought a friend over to her creaky old apartment because she was sure there were gas leaks, even though there was no gas to be smelled. She'd have odd dreams, wake up and call me at work because she knew that they meant death was near.

I and my friends and her friends constantly had to talk her down. Eventually it became a full-time job, and I had no life. I'd come home from work, ask, how was your day, and get two hours of fear, paranoia, and accusations about the people around her. Literally, two hours.

If she doesn't see the need for help, there's nothing you can do except tell her to _get_ help; that, or tell her relatives to come get her. I would imagine that she's not a happy person; mentally ill people rarely are. It's kinda hard to stare a friend in the face and say, "I don't think that's true, get help," but what else can you do? I had to cut loose myself. She made it on her own for a few months, then crashed. Went home to live with the folks. It was probably for the best.