Originally Posted by Sultana

Just because a gal may be perceived as *perfect*, or slender, or good at makeup application, or whatever, it's not right to cast dispersions on her. Sure, it might make us feel better to call her shallow, or vain, or self-obsessed...but we actually don't know. *YOU* very well may be *that woman* to others, as much as you may laugh at the thought. OK, so Gilda (please forgive me for picking you as a specific example) is, in her mind, too small. To me, she's slender as a dancer, bringing to mind the elegant beauty of a young Audrey Hepburn, and I know I will *never* look like that. But it's not right for me to say, "OMG, she probably diets herself to distraction and spends all her spare time at the gym to look like that, how shallow!"